Informal caregivers have a vital role in supporting and caring for family members with dementia. Caregiving is complex and may lead to psychological, physical, social and financial stress for caregivers. This article reports the findings of an integrative review that explored the literature on the psychological effect of caring for a family member with dementia at home. The article discusses four themes that were identified in the literature: ‘the world shrinks’; ‘surrender to the unknown’; ‘robbed of the future’; and ‘torn between relief and guilt’. These themes provide insight into the holistic experience of caring for a family member with dementia, revealing the positive and negative psychological effects of the role.